Helping our children

Understanding our children.

All behavior is communicative. What are children trying to tell us with their “misbehavior”? As Rudolf Dreikurs asserted, there are 4 goals of misbehavior:attention, power, revenge, and avoidance..

When we identify the goal behind the behavior, we can learn to meet our children’s needs, thereby decreasing the maladaptive behaviors. Through natural and logical consequences and using the 4 C’s-connect, capable, count, courage- identified by Amy Lew and Betty Lou Bettner, we can guide and encourage our children. See the link below for more information. What behavior are you struggling with at home?


Behavior Resources

Eileen Dummer MA, LPCC Lighthouse Counseling Ltd Hutchinson/Willmar/ Minnetonka