In my last blog post, I discussed shame and how to decrease shame with the use of vulnerability. But what is vulnerability and how can being vulnerable truly help people?
Vulnerability can be seen as the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally. Dr. Brené Brown, researcher in shame and vulnerability, describes vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.” Although vulnerability is about exposure, it is also about courage and the willingness to allow yourself to be exposed.
When looking at vulnerability there are a lot of different myths that people have regarding it. People often look at vulnerability and think that they are weak for being vulnerable. However, when we look at others that are being vulnerable, we think they are strong. This is a double edge sword and we admire others but think we are not able to do it ourselves.
Another myth people say is that they are never vulnerable. People are often vulnerable and do not realize it. Every one experiences vulnerability; the difference is some people are actively being vulnerable while others are accidentally being vulnerable. True intimacy and partnership involve vulnerability. People cannot truly be seen or loved unless they let others in as love, joy, and belonging are all made out of vulnerability.
Vulnerability has the power of increasing intimacy in relationships, increasing self-worth, aids innovation and motivation, provokes compassion, increases accountability, and decreases loneliness. So be vulnerable! Have the courage and willingness to be exposed, for when you are able to be vulnerable you are able to have the life you desire.
For more information on vulnerability check out “Brené Brown: The Call to Courage” on Netflix or “6 Powerful Benefits of Vulnerability and Shame – Yes, you read that right” retrieved from https://intentioninspired.com/6-powerful-benefits-of-vulnerability-and-shame/
Keli Hinkemeyer earned her Master of Science degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from St. Cloud State University, MN after completing her Bachelor of Science degree in Chemical Dependency and Community Psychology from St. Cloud State University, MN. She has a history of working with individuals who have spent time in the criminal justice system and are on parole. She has worked with individuals who have had an alcohol, substance, and behavioral addiction.