I recently came upon a great article written by Dr. Frances Jensen, a neuroscientist,
on Facebook titled “What Were You Thinking?!? Understanding the Teenage Brain”. I’ll admit, as a mom to 4 teens and a counselor, the title had me intrigued. I have included the link below and would fully encourage you to read the entire article, but keeping in mind that all brains and teens are different and nothing is set in stone.
“I think what parents sometimes do with teenagers is that they get frustrated and they throw up their hands. That is the wrong thing to do. I am not advocating for helicopter parenting. What I’m saying is that as much energy as you put into your toddler, it’s a different kind of energy, but you may have to put in even more for your teenager. You have to help them plan. You have to help them understand their strengths and weaknesses. Talk to them about decision-making. As a parent, you have to step up and be their frontal lobe. Give a frontal lobe assist, if you will.”
Myth: “Oh, they’ll be fine. They will bounce back. They will grow out of it.” Well, teenagers do grow out of it, but I felt we were dismissing what they were doing during the teenage years. It’s an incredibly valuable and precious time. It’s a time you can still really scaffold your brain for your future life. I think parents need to know that. I think teenagers need to know that. You need to mind your brain. You get one brain.
Another great source is on Facebook called Positive Parenting Solutions. Check out their page, they have tons of great information about parenting today’s kids in today’s world. https://www.facebook.com/PositiveParentingSolutions/
Hello, my name is Selena Morefield. I am a counselor at Lighthouse Counseling at the beautiful downtown Waconia location. I enjoy working with children ages 6 and up, teens, college students, adults, couples, families and seniors. I focus on using a variety of strategies, based upon what may work best with each individual personality and situation. If you are interested in establishing a supportive, trusting and open relationship, then we may be a good fit and I would love to hear from you.